there’s a public consultation on sunak’s stupid “no more sick leave work yourselves to death” idea which closes 8th July 2024.
uk people you know the drill: polite but firm about how this is economically and socially a stupid fucking idea
non uk people please share for visibility
This is upsetting me so much.
I suffer from depression and anxiety. I currently have a doctor’s note to say that adjustments should include working from home, as my employers (or more specifically the old men who tell my employers what to do) want everyone back in the office 5 days a week.
I’m good at my job. I work very hard, with frequently long hours. I pay tax (and am happy to). If i can no longer get a doctor’s note to say I should be able to work from home, and have to go in, the short term consequences are that I will do fewer hours (as I’ll be rushing bang on 5 to try and avoid the rush hour) and my work will be worse as I’ll be trying to get things done while super stressed. In addition my workplace relationships, which are currently excellent (seriously, I’m as surprised as anyone) will suffer, as my mental health degrades, as I become a worse version of myself, with a shorter temper - and frankly nobody wants to work with someone who can burst into tears at any moment).
The long term consequences are either I lose my job because of the above issues, or I end up having to quit. Presumably going on long term sick leave won’t be an option now, as depression isn’t a valid reason. So then what? Unemployment? Suicide? any version of this results in me being more of a problem, costing more, and making life more miserable for both myself and those around me, than just LETTING ME HAVE MY FUCKING DOCTOR’S NOTE.
I hate this government so much, and I hate that if they get this through before an election our current opposition will prob just say ‘yeah, this is fine’.
Get in there and give them hell in the consultation form <3
After watching Cinderella (the original animated movie, which was my favorite as a child), it strikes me how it solves many common problems people have with this fairy tale. Like:
Why did they try to identify the mystery girl using her shoe size? Because the bullheaded king’s only clue to her identity was the shoe the Grand Duke picked up off the steps.
Why didn’t the prince recognize her by her face? Because his father wouldn’t involve him in the process at all, and wasn’t the one going around trying to find her.
Why did the prince want to marry a lady he only met that night? Because his father was going to force him to marry someone, and he genuinely liked this woman.
Why did Cinderella want to marry a man she only met that night? Because marriage was her best and most secure way to freedom. Fucked up, but you can’t say it’s unrealistic for the setting of a fairy tale. She also genuinely liked him.
If they’re using the slipper to find her, wouldn’t it be more sensible to search for the person with the other slipper? Yes. The King is purposefully nonsensical and the Duke is purposefully terrified enough of him to carry out his orders to the letter. Furthermore, they end up doing that in the end anyway, because the Duke’s glass slipper is shattered, and Cinderella brings out the one she has to prove her identity.
Why didn’t the stepmother and stepsisters recognize Cinderella at the ball? Because they were dancing too far away, and then left the party to dance in private, which was possible because the King wanted very badly for his son to hit it off with someone and tried to arrange the best conditions for that to happen.
Why didn’t Cinderella save herself? Because in real life, abuse victims should not have to shoulder that responsibility, and usually can’t. In real life, you need and deserve an external support system. Asking for help, in this kind of situation, is very important. She is saved by others because she is loved. Because she is not alone. Because she has friends who love her, and want her to be happy and safe and free. Because in real life, people who want to help someone who is suffering are like the mice. We can’t pull out miracle solutions, but we can provide companionship and if we’re in the right place at the right time, we can help the person find a better life.
Why didn’t the fairy godmother save Cinderella from her abusive household, or try to help her sooner? Because she’s magic, and magic can’t solve your problems. Quote: “Like all dreams, well, I’m afraid it can’t last forever.” This (and Cinderella’s dream of going to the ball) is a metaphor for pleasurable things in bad circumstances. An ice cream won’t get rid of your depression, but it will provide you with momentary happiness to bolster you, as well as the reminder that happiness in general is still possible for you. Cinderella doesn’t want to go to the ball so she can get away from her stepmother and stepsisters, or so she can meet someone to marry and leave with. She wants to go to the ball to remind herself that she can still have things she wants. That her desires matter. This is important because the movie does a very good job of illustrating Lady Tremaine’s subtle abuse tactics, all of which invisibly press the message that Cinderella doesn’t matter. While going to the ball and fulfilling her dreams may not be a victory in the material sense, it is still a victory against Lady Tremaine’s efforts.
Why is Cinderella’s choice to be kind and obedient framed as a good thing, when you are not obligated to be kind to your abuser? This one walks a very fine line, but I think the movie still makes it make sense. Lady Tremaine never acknowledges her cruelty. She always frames her punishments of Cinderella as Cinderella’s fault. Cinderella is interrupting, Cinderella is shirking her duties, Cinderella is playing vicious practical jokes. Cinderella is still a member of the family, of course she can go to the ball, provided she meet these impossible conditions. Lady Tremaine’s tactics are designed to make Cinderella feel like she must always be in the wrong and her stepmother must always be in the right. If Cinderella calls her stepmother out on her cruelty, or attempts to fight back, Lady Tremaine can frame that as Cinderella being ungrateful, cruel, broken, evil, etc. If Cinderella responds to her stepmother’s cruelty defiantly (in the way she’s justified to), she’s not taking control out of Lady Tremaine’s hands. Disobedience can be spun back into her stepmother’s control. She wants Cinderella to be angry and sad and show how much she’s hurting. So since Cinderella is adapting to her situation, she chooses to be kind. Not only because she naturally wants to be and it’s part of her personality, but because it is a form of defiance in its own way, and it allows her to keep a reminder of her agency and value. Her choice to be kind is her chance to keep her own narrative alive: she is not obeying because her stepmother wants her to and she has to do what her stepmother does, but because she wants to. It’s a small distinction, but one that makes all the difference in terms of keeping her hope and identity. (Fuck, I wrote a whole paragraph about how this doesn’t mean you can’t be angry at people who hurt you or that you need to be kind to deserve help, and then deleted it by accident. Uh. Try again.) Expressing anger and pain is an important part of regaining autonomy and healing. Although it is commendable to be kind while you are suffering, it is NOT required for you to get help or be worthy of help. If Cinderella’s recovery was explored beyond “happily ever after” she would need to let herself be angry and sad to heal. Cinderella is not only kind because it comes naturally to her, but because it’s her defense against the abuse she’s suffering. Everyone’s story and experiences are different, and one does not invalidate the other.
Bonus round for answers that aren’t part of the movie:
Why didn’t Cinderella run away? Where would she go? Genuinely, in hundreds-of-years-ago France, where would she go if she snuck out of the window with a change of clothes? With her step-family, she’s miserable and abused, but she’s fed, clothed, and in no danger of dying or being taken advantage of by anyone other than her stepmother and stepsisters. Even if she escapes and manages to find financial security, her stepmother might be able to find her and get her back.
Why didn’t Cinderella burn the house down with them inside it/slit their throats in the night/poison their food/etc.? Because that’s a revenge fantasy, and this story is a fantasy about being saved. There’s nothing wrong with making Cinderella into a revenge fantasy. That’s perfectly fine, as long as you acknowledge that the other type of fantasy is also a valid interpretation. (I mean, the original fairy tale features the stepsisters getting their feet mutilated and all three of them getting their eyes pecked out, so go for it.)
Why isn’t Cinderella more proactive in general? Because she’s a child who has been abused for the back half of her life, who has had to be focused on survival because. you know. she’s an abused kid.
How did she dance in glass slippers? Gotta agree with you there man, that’s weird.
If I ask nicely will people reblog this and tell me what their most common breakfast is? Not your favorite necessarily, just what you have for breakfast most frequently? 🙏🏽
I am wondering how many of you who responded that they can ride a horse have actually ridden a horse. Or if it’s like an “all men think they can land a plane” kind of thing.
Feel free to drink coffee however you like - it’s up to you! Some of you may not like it at all.
However, I personally just found that I needed more and more just to feel “normal.” A cup to wake up. Then 2 cups, etc. It just seemed more efficient to cycle it throughout the week.
Also, I think it’s beneficial to resist our urges (drink coffee) regularly. Or at least have the ability to do so.
So… I found this and now it keeps coming to mind. You hear about “life-changing writing advice” all the time and usually its really not—but honestly this is it man.
I’m going to try it.
I love the lawyer metaphor, because whenever I see “John knew that…” in prose writing I immediately think “how? How does he know it?” Interrogate your witnesses. Cross-examine them. Make them explain their reasoning. It pays dividends.
All of this, but also feels/felt. My editor has forbidden me from using those and it’s forced me to stretch my skills.
Update Harvard students are walking out in solidarity with Columbia’s students
These are billion dollar for profit institutions that directly impact financial backing of Israel’s apartheid regime
MIT is walking out! Do you not understand how huge this is? Do you understand what holds Israel afloat?
In solidarity with Columbia Yale students have just constructed an encampment. Organizers say they won’t leave until Yale divests from all military weapons manufacturing.
[image description: a screenshot of a tweet by braxtonbrew96 that reads, “unc students right now starting an encampment outside of the university administration building in solidarity with columbia students and palestine 🇵🇸.” below the tweet is a video showing the encampment. the tweet has been quote retweeted by aditilrao, who adds, “encampments on every campus until the cops are off them all!! reclamation ❤️🔥 abolition ❤️🔥 divestment now ❤️🔥.” end description.]
unc-chapel hill students as well! this is as of 4/19/24.
The Satoshi was a cruise ship owned by Ocean Builders, a company dedicated to “seasteading,” an attempt to create a seabourne community free of laws imposed on dry land, with strong ties to the cryptocurrency movement.
The 1991-built ship, originally named Regal Princess but renamed Pacific Dawn in 2007, was purchased by Ocean Builders in the middle of the Covid-19 pandemic in 2020. The idea was to permanently anchor the ship in Panamian waters, as the central hub of an eventual community of “SeaPods”, essentially individual houses at sea, which would be arranged around the Satoshi in the form of a Bitcoin B.
It quickly became evident that the people running Ocean Builders had no understanding of how to operate a ship: they initially failed to ensure their ship had certificate of seaworthiness to allow it to sail to Panama (where the venture was to be based), and even after this no-one was willing to insure the ship, making it impossible for passengers to live onboard. They also planned to re-engine the ship while it was out at sea, a physically impossible task to accomplish without sinking the ship in the process.
The leadership of Ocean Builders blamed all this on shipping being “plagued by over-regulation.” (Many of our entries here at Today’s Problematic Ship demonstrate those regulations exist for a reason). The end result was predictable: by the time the Satoshi arrived in Panama it had been sold to an Indian shipbreaker.
Except Ocean Builders had signed a contract they could not honour: according to the Basel Convention, which covers the disposal of hazardous waste, they weren’t allowed to send the ship from a signatory country (Panama) to a non-signatory country (India). Thus the sale was cancelled, and subsequently the ship was arrested by Panamian authorities.
Eventually, the Satoshi was sold in 2021 a different startup company, Ambassador Cruise Line. The new venture, who actually knew how to operate a cruise ship, started successful operations with the former Satoshi, now renamed Ambience, in 2022.
...and a nomad who knows.
